Do you know these 7 explicit ways to cultivate trust to save the relationship? Often, what actually makes a relationship work are not the things we think of first. For example, do you think you always need to spice things up? Wrong! Predictability is more valuable than variety in a relationship. The following seven methods are sure to flourish your connection by improving the level of trust to save the relationship.
First, as I referred to in the opening paragraph, you need to be predictable. This goes against the typical belief that you need to “stir things up” to keep the romance going Sure, going to a new restaurant going on a trip on impulse can be nice, but most of all, we need things to be constant and stable in order to make our relationships work. Consider that trust in a relationship is built on being reliable day in and day out.
Next, you need to make sure that your words always match the message. This means that your partner needs to hear the words which match your body language. If you say you are happy but you are actually depressed, your partner doesn’t hear your words, he or she sees your face and the tone in your voice. Your partner needs to be able to believe what you say. When the words match the message, you build trust and are able to save the relationship.
Third, you need to have a basic belief in your partner’s competence. If you don’t you won’t have the trust in a relationship that you need. When lovingly made known, the truth is never harmful. When you do not trust that your partner is adept at some things (or indeed, anything), you disregard the trust in a relationship.
Don’t keep secrets. Secrets quash trust a relationship. Be on the level and open. Believe everything you know will in the end come out. Secrets require tremendous energy on your part. That is energy that could be directed to save the relationship.
Fifth, don’t be afraid to let your partner know what your needs are. Don’t make him or her speculate what you need. Let them understand. It is okay to be self-centered as long as you are not greedy. Indeed, if you are disinclined to declare your needs, you may go overboard in the opposite direction and stifle your partner.
Sixth, learn to say no. When your partner lets you know his or her needs, that is a good thing. But you don’t need to agree to everything. A partner cannot respect you if you never say no. Refusing to be subjugated to the other person’s will actually build trust and in the process save the relationship.
Finally, always pursue growth. When you plant a flower, you begin by digging in the dirt. Digging in the dirt of our relationships can sometimes cause heartache. But, through that pain, we prepare the soil for future growth. Don’t be afraid of turmoil, dilemma, or questions. These become the fertilizer for growth and change. Accept what is difficult.
When you choose to work on trust in a relationship, you are bound to encounter a little pain. But, as you work through this pain, you will not only become stronger as an individual, you will also take you first step to save the relationship.